What Does ‘Beauty’ Mean?
As young girls, we are taught that certain things make us look attractive, while certain things don’t. We grow up in a world dominated by the media and the growing commercial markets, and as these two giant influences work together cohesively, it prints a picture of what we are expected to be, who we are expected to be. Standards are set, and in line with them, are our own expectations. An image of ‘perfection’ is painted, and anything that falls short of that, or is in the least bit different, is ugly or unacceptable. Despite the growing involvement and influence of gender equality and feminism, some mindsets don’t change, and some ugly influences don’t change either. When you really think about it, it’s not just the girls who are affected; the guys are too, what with media and pop culture portraying what a ‘perfect man’ should be. What about the boys who fall short of these standards too? The ones who are too ashamed to say that it hurts and affects them, due to stigmas and distorted ways of thinking. This whole issue is not just restricted to the younger generations; in fact, it affects everyone. How can it not? The entire issue speaks solely about the person you see in the mirror everyday of your life.
Maybe our girls are taught the wrong thing’ that they need to wear makeup to look pretty. Of course, if one wishes to, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it, but what if the reason they do it is because they feel ugly without it? Maybe we should start teaching our girls, our ladies, that each and every one of us is beautiful, that there is no set standard on femininity or beauty. There is no need for insecurity, no need to be ashamed of what could be wrongly considered ‘flaws.’ After all, is all the plastic surgery and dark eye circle treatment in Singapore for them to feel good, or for everyone else to appreciate their aesthetic value? Changing the way you look is not wrong, but it should be for you, not somebody else.
And for the boys, how many of them are actually comfortable in their own skin? How many have to keep their feelings unvoiced about their self worth and their appearance? How many boys go to the gym and work out for their own benefit and satisfaction, and how many of them do it due to peer pressure, or the masculine image? Pause to think of all the men who are judged harshly for their choice to get cosmetic surgery and facial laser treatment done, for it is considered ‘unmanly’ to do so.
Our system is distorted, our messages our corrupted. Change NEEDS to take place.